As an inheritor, you may not have a profession or earned income by which to define yourself, but you do have the financial resources you’ve inherited. However, as discussed in our Blog series on the troubles that accompany inherited wealth, your inheritance, and the lifestyle it affords can lead to envy, resentment, and negative perceptions from others. For those who have never defined their life by a career, it’s easy to feel left behind or inferior to those who have achieved higher education or career success. However, it’s important to remember that these external markers of success don’t define your worth or value as a person.
The Wall Street Journal published an article titled, “Stop Telling Everyone What You Do for a Living,” which discusses how individuals often define themselves by their professions and their incomes. This can lead to a constant need to prove oneself and maintain a certain image in the eyes of others.
Success can come in many forms. For some, success looks like earning a Ph.D. or starting a business. For others, success looks like growing a beautiful garden of flowers or vegetables, or raising children or animals.
Instead of defining yourself by what you do or how much money you make, focus on the passions, interests, and hobbies that excite you. Money and a degree are just pieces of paper at the end of the day. Nothing truly captures the essence of who you are more than the activities and interests you are innately drawn to in your free time.
Learning new skills and pursuing personal growth can help you build confidence and self-worth. If you can’t think of an interest or activity you love to do right now, consider taking up a new hobby, learning a new language, or volunteering in your community. These activities not only help you develop new skills and interests, but they can also help you connect with others and build meaningful relationships.
So, the next time you find yourself at a party or event where you might have to introduce yourself or what you “do” to others, remember to take the focus off work or education. If you need additional guidance, consider answering some of the following “icebreaker” questions:
- What is the kindest act you’ve ever done?
- What is your proudest achievement?
- What is something new you learned this week?
- What is a weird fact you know for no reason?
- Where do you find motivation?
- How do you enjoy spending your free time?