Nostalgia, which tempts us to revisit our past with a sense of “the good old days,” often leaves us feeling that the best moments of our lives are behind us. This type of reminiscing can be detrimental, as it keeps us anchored in the past and prevents us from fully appreciating the present.
In contrast, positive nostalgia is not about yearning to return to the past. Rather, it involves fondly recalling past events and focusing on the positive emotions they bring. The key is to harness positive nostalgia as a source of inspiration and motivation, using it to remind ourselves of life’s bright moments while fully embracing the opportunities and experiences of the present.
This kind of interaction is becoming increasingly rare today. The virtual nature of our lives and work keeps us physically separated and communicating through short messages rather than long talks. This is a mistake; in-depth connection is a biological necessity, and its absence likely contributes to the record number of people identifying as lonely today.
Human interactions, especially in-person ones, involve a complex interplay of biological, chemical, and psychological processes that are not typically present, or are less pronounced, in online interactions. Studies have shown that certain vital neurotransmitters, such as oxytocin, dopamine, serotonin, and endorphins, are activated by meaningful interactions, resulting in feelings of happiness, pleasure, reward, mood elevation, and even pain relief. In contrast, stress hormones like cortisol are released during tense or negative interactions.
While virtual communications have their benefits, they can lead to misinterpretations of body language and tone, increasing stress responses.
A crucial reminder: we need two things to be happier and healthier. First, we need positive nostalgia that fills us with appreciation for the past rather than a longing to return to it. Second, we need to invest in more in-person moments with those we care about, which may become our cherished memories.
In our current time, we’re too quick to make excuses to avoid going out and seeing people in person. Next time you have an opportunity for quality in-person time with new and old friends and colleagues, find a way to make it happen!